Knowing 10 Characteristics of Male Feminist

Entering the new year is often preceded by a new achievement, positive changes that are all contained in a list of resolutions this year. What is your resolution also includes expectations change in a partner, relative, or friend of men? Moreover, if for a year or even years behind you and your partner to wrestle in an unhappy relationship.

If you crave a new man, who treats you as a woman with a more just and equal, it means you are yearning of men who use the language of feminism in their daily life. Most men are talking and acting with the language and rules of men. As the French philosopher, Jacques Lacan, our world is full of male rule, which is dominated by ways of thinking and language of men.

Well, whether spouse, friend, brother you're talking to a new language, the language of feminist? The man who had the guts to balance the world (of world domination and the rule of men) with a new language and figure this year. You can recognize the behavior. Here are 10 characteristics of male feminist Gadis Arivia written in her book Feminism: A Conscience.


1. Having a sense of caring
Feminist language, train men to care about the immediate environment, such as family, then spread to the broader level of society. With this caring, sensitive men in the hearts and feelings of others. As a result, men can become a good listener and observer in any field.

2. Tolerant
Tolerance becomes a powerful weapon to fight against aggression, conflict, and the fundamentalist attitude. The man who developed a tolerant attitude means believing in pluralism. Is not the individual who believes and appreciates pluralism become more tolerant? With a high tolerance, conflict pair one of the adverse party will be avoided, the relationship was more equal in pairs and give justice both in men, and especially women.

3. Cultured
Men who are interested in art, literature, music, and theater has a cultural approach in itself. Meanwhile, one source is cultural pluralism. Can you imagine, how a cultured man is undergoing daily, with a high tolerance for pluralism rooted in the faith and derived from the culture. Positive values that will appear on ourselves civilized men is the cultural construct, not destructive. Cultured men would certainly support a spouse or women around him, and not destructive or violent toward the opposite sex.

4. Release
In interpersonal relationships, male feminist indulgence in the aura of freedom and not the chest tightness. Relationships are built with each individual character of democratic and participatory. That is, he tried to participate in every thought and action of his partner. The attitude that this release gives a positive effect on his self partners to develop, rather than leaving a sense of guilt, fear, and rejection.

5. Using positive language
Male feminists use language that empowers. That is language that avoids the condescending vocabulary screen. This man uses language as a communication event to enjoy each other conversation and understand themselves respectively. The language used is not to set a strategy to trap each other.

6. Understanding the division of domestic labor
Male feminists will always care about the domestic load. He understands and cares about domestic workload. Domestic work arrangements made with equality. This means that feminist men are not ashamed to washing clothes, cooking, and cleaning house. Making tea or coffee for her partner does not make him feel less macho. Replace the baby diaper and care for children is an obligation being operated with a sense of happiness.

7. Care for reproductive rights
The girl wrote a contribution to high maternal mortality rate is not pahamnya men of the importance of women's reproductive rights. Male involvement in pregnancy women and konstrasepsi very important. Male feminists want to learn about the intricacies of female reproduction because she cares about her partner's life.

8. Exciting in sexual activity
"Feminist Men always been sensitive to the sexual needs of his partner," said the girl. Female orgasm always be considered and used as a focus in any sexual activity. Sexual conversations with a healthy terbina always ensured. The goal is that sexual activity becomes a physical and psychic pleasure.

9. Transparent
Feminist men enact the budget with transparent financial arrangements. Economic family is closely related to the welfare and happiness. Therefore, he realizes that involves planning partner needed to build a future that is more responsible. Transparency of the household budget is distancing himself from corrupt practices. "Corruption is a part that is damaging the household," explained the girl.

10. Antipoligami
Men uphold feminist values of justice and equality. He can not live with a partner who turns in a single agreement. Freedom of feminist men accounted for loyalty and respect for their partners. By adhering to this principle, the man refused and antipoligami feminist.